come.
May 12, 2008it’s interesting stuff, come. and the women i fuck react to it so differently.
my ex reacted to it like it was poison, not touching it, reacting to the smell violently, picking up more on the bleach-y undertones than anything else.
another girl smeared my come all over her skin after i came on her.
another one kissed me deeply with her mouth full of it, which was far more erotic that i would have imagined and really turned me on, so much so that i started fucking her while her tongue still in my mouth.
another always licks me clean and swallows it no matter what. speakeasy does the same.
no joke, she calls it “doing lines”.
none wanted any of the “cumshot” activities found in porn, and i can’t say they do much for me either.
i find all of this interesting.
men, or the men in my world, don’t share details of our sexual activity among one another, so i’ve no idea how all other men react to women’s fluids - i only get to sample women’s behaviors, i have no idea where my relationship with come lies.
the ex insisted that only “sluts and pornstars” pretended to like come. i never really believed that, but it’s just as odd to assume that only prudes hate it. it always hurt me that she seems psychically allergic to it, but i don’t expect all the women i date to be hungry for it either.
i’m wondering what the happy middle-ground is (while complete understanding that there’s a large spectrum of reactions).
i find it interesting that the most visible outcome of our sexual activity is something i understand so poorly.
May 12, 2008 at 4:56 pm
What kind of middle ground is it you are looking for?
May 13, 2008 at 1:45 am
That’s a good question, pumkins0up. I’m not sure.
If there’s a theme in my life it’s that I try to avoid social influences on my opinions and avoid the same in others. I guess, like with the “sweet nothings” I’m looking reactions that fit within our natural boundaries, rather than those shown to us through culture.
It’s trite to say “authenticity” but I’m stuck for a better word.
I also believe avoiding culture is impossible, and not a good thing if you could do it, so there’s a massive contradiction.
May 13, 2008 at 5:46 pm
I see what you are trying to shine light on. I agree with you. People that I’ve been with have been into such different things and its taught me a lot.
Things that our culture teaches us to be embarassed about, those cultural “taboos” don’t phase me anymore.
I like your style
May 19, 2008 at 6:55 pm
“men, or the men in my world, don’t share details of our sexual activity among one another” . . .
Whoa?!? I thought they did, sorta. The women in my world always share. I didn’t really think how lucky I had it.
Most people I know who are sexually in tune love things that are parts of their lovers. But that’s “most” . . . and everyone has things that make them shudder, for one reason or another (or as pumkins0up put it, people are into such different things.) Thoughtful . . . thank you.
May 20, 2008 at 3:30 am
Seraglioletters, it’s likely just me and my friends that remain silent, and I’ve selected friends that suit that nature. I’ve run in circles in the past that were a bit more vocal about sex and relationships, but even then, it was a bit more about machismo then sharing intimacy. I guess I’m a bit more private than most.